Dear Mama’s, Please Exist In Photos
There you are with your phone, capturing every last detail of your children. From the moment they are earthside, to the first foods, first steps, first day at school, first missing tooth; recording each milestone.
I see you; I see how proud you are of your children and how important it is for you to capture these memories.
But what about you?
What about when your children are older and they look back and none of the photos include you?
I am guilty of this. For my newborn daughter’s session I insisted I did not want to be in any photos. My hair was awful, I was so tired, I was too fat… any excuse really. Now I look back and it is truly a huge regret to not have this moment photographed. They way I looked lovingly at her and nothing else in the world existed. That connection of pure love and happiness of mother and newborn. A moment too fleeting to ever get back.
Why do mothers always put themselves last? Why do we scrutinise every last physical detail? For all of this it does not matter. Because to your children you are perfect. You are a nose-blowing, lunch-making, tickle fighting super hero. Your children don’t care if you haven’t cleaned the kitchen or if you wear the same clothes two days in a row. All they want is you.
And when they are grown up what they will treasure more than anything is photographs that include you.
I want you to know how valuable you are. To your family and children. You should be remembered. You should be photographed. Not a snap chat filtered selfie. A real photograph that is a legacy of your existence. Don’t leave it until it’s too late.
Lots of love, from every photographer ever.